How to have more fun as a Mom
We mamas feel like we basically always know what’s best for our kids… because usually we do ;)
We know how warm to make their bottles, how much food to put in their plates, their favourite bedtime stories, how many extra changes of clothes to pack and what time they usually poop in their diapers (usually right before I put mine in their car seats). The list can go on. When we are able anticipate their needs so well it’s hard to let anyone else step in and take care of them! Sometimes even our dear partners! But ladies… ya gotta let go of that control. Once you do your world will freaking open up and you will gain back some of your freedom.
I used to have this idea in my head that I HAD to be the one to put my kids to bed. Especially while they were still nursing.
It gives your partner a sense of confidence
If you don’t ever let them pack the diaper bag how will they ever figure out what to put in it? I guarantee that after not bringing a change of clothes, having the kid barf all over everything and needing to bring a barf-covered baby into the mall to buy new clothes, they will remember the clothes next time LOL. Also, if you never give your partner the chance to try something, or never nudge them to try, they may never volunteer. They will assume it’s “your job.”
It gives you time and space to do you
Girlfriend time is important and your ladies miss you! Play dates are fun and all but you also need some time to let loose, drink too many glasses of wine and semi regret it when your kid wakes you up at 6 am. Create some time for self-care!
You children will strengthen their bonds with your partner or with family members who babysit them
There’s something to be said for letting your kids spend time with your partner without you around. My kids are pretty much obsessed with me when I am home. They will come upstairs to ask me to get them a glass of water while my husband is downstairs happy and willing to help. When I’m not there, though, they turn to their dad and play, talk and connect with him in a way that doesn’t happen when I’m home too.
The kids will have FUN
If you have a babysitter you trust, your kids will have the experience of spending time with another trusted person and probably have a great time. When I babysat my little cousins I remember the kids always got treats and went to bed a little later than usual. We’d play games, watch movies, eat pizza and laugh while their parents did their thang. Thats’s a win for all in my book.
Avoid Mommy Burn-out
If you figure out how to take breaks and let go of some control now then you will (hopefully) be less prone to burning out. Burnout is rough. Been there! For me, when it struck I had no choice but to let go because I physically and emotionally needed a break. Ask for and accept help from anyone who is willing! You’ll be happy you did.
You might want to check out these journal prompts for self-care to write while you are enjoying all that new time to yourself ;)
-Breyen